I've had a pretty trying weekend. Father-in-law came to stay for 4 days and it was hard work ((c) understatement of the century). But that's a whole other story.
But during this strange, surreal nightmare I had a tiny little moment of peace and serenity and it was my favourite part of the whole weekend. At 4am today I woke up and I could hear Boychild chatting away to himself quietly. Quite happily and contentedly, but he was awake nonetheless.
I went in to give him his dummy and get him back to sleep. He was on all fours and looked up at me with a big innocent smile, leaned back on his haunches and put his arms up. So I picked him up and he immediately flopped down on my shoulder with his arms round my neck and started stroking my hair. I let him slide down so I was cradling him like a little baby and spent 10 minutes just rocking him and watching him snooze.
I can't remember the last time I've done that when he was so peaceful (usually it's because he's not well or is teething) and it was beautiful.
I'm sure being up at 4am like that isn't everyone's idea of a good time and a few years ago I'm sure it would not have been mine either, but I guess times change. Happy mummy.
About Me
- Shortlass
- A first time mum at 39, trying not to let my son kill me off too soon. Busy juggling a new family, a new house and a tricky recording schedule I figured blogging would be less expensive than therapy and less embarrassing than shouting at rude and stupid people in the street/on trains/at the supermarket.
Monday, 24 June 2013
Thursday, 2 May 2013
Mummy Crushes
Having never been a stranger to 'weird crushes', I was interested to see who the latest mum crushes are. According to notanothermummyblog.com this is the list
5 - Aled Jones. REEEEEEEEAAALLLLY????
Maybe it's because I know people who were at college with him, and I can still see him on the telly aged about 11 but I really don't get this one. He still looks as though he doesn't need to shave.
4 - Mr Maker (Phil Gallagher from kids tv for those of you lucky enough not to have to watch that crap)
5 - Aled Jones. REEEEEEEEAAALLLLY????
Maybe it's because I know people who were at college with him, and I can still see him on the telly aged about 11 but I really don't get this one. He still looks as though he doesn't need to shave.
4 - Mr Maker (Phil Gallagher from kids tv for those of you lucky enough not to have to watch that crap)
Again, has he started shaving yet?
3 - Philip Schofield. Hmmm. Difficult to say where I stand on that one. He was cute when I was 16. When he became all 'silver fox' he awakened many a lady's lustings, but now... well he's just everywhere and to be honest, I'm beginning to find him a little creepy. Sorry Phil.
2 - Alex from CBeebies
Not to be confused with Alex Winter, ie:'the one who is not Keanu' from Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure ... who is showing more than a passing resemblance to Michael Bublé right now...
At least both of these guys have something about them I could find attractive but I'm still not convinced.
and then .... [drum roll please......] onwards to NUMBER 1
1 - Dr Ranj!! Hooooooooray! A real man. Someone who shaves, someone who does mean and moody and someone who can relate to kids too (although that's not high on my list if it's purely a carnal crush. oh god, what am i saying, this bloke is a kid's TV presenter... but also a real doctor so he does a brain too. See, I'm not really shallow at all.)
Tuesday, 23 April 2013
Single mums - I salute you!
In the last year I have been pretty thankful, on one or two occasions, that I can share the 'burden' of Boychild with Husb but last night I really could not have been more thankful!
Just before 1am, I was woken by the sobbing of Boychild. It's pretty unusual for him to wake up at that time and even more unusual for him to sound so inconsolable. I went in and found him kneeling in his cot covered in, and surrounded by, vomit (tmi - apologies). He'd clearly thrown-up in his sleep and woken up in it as it was everywhere - in his hair, in his ears and eyes, on his sleeping bag and sleepsuit, the cot bumper and obviously all over the sheet.
All of a sudden I felt this wash of panic and in a very 'ER' kind of way I yelled to Husb, 'gonna need some help in here!'.
Thankfully, within an hour of waking, Boychild was sleeping peacefully once more after being stripped, bathed, redressed, read-to and, most importantly, cuddled quite a lot. In fact, we found that he had left a teddy or two behind in our bed and, between you and me, I quite enjoyed snuggling up to them.
Whilst I really could have done without being on red alert for a whole hour less than 3 hours after falling asleep, it was all over fairly quickly and I was asleep not long after my little man. But this morning it got me thinking. The only reason everything went so smoothly and swiftly was because the load was shared between two people. I stripped Boychild whilst Hubby ran the bath and then Hubby bathed him whilst I stripped the bed, cleaned it, remade it and found some clean nightwear. I took the still sobbing munchkin and cuddled him dry as Husb emptied the bath and tidied the bathroom and then I loaded the washing machine and found a clean cuddly toy to take to bed while Husb dressed him. All within about half an hour.
A full recovery seemed to have taken place by now and the previously sobbing child was now playing jumping games on the marital bed and trying to comb my hair (which basically involved bashing me on the head with the comb). So we found some books, tucked him in the middle of us and let him 'read' for ten minutes, then bundled him up and took him back to his own bed and popped him down. Within another few minutes he was snoring and stayed like that til morning.
What if Husb had been out/away on business/a total git who didn't get involved with his own child? Surely this is the kind of situation a single mum has to deal with on a daily basis? Don't misunderstand me, I have had to sort out Boychild alone when he's been ill in the past, but that was in the middle of the day, I was wide awake and we hadn't just moved, so I knew exactly where to find everything really quickly!
Basically what I'm trying to say is 'mucho respect' to all the single mums out there - whatever the reason for your situation, you have a damn hard job and I salute you.
Just before 1am, I was woken by the sobbing of Boychild. It's pretty unusual for him to wake up at that time and even more unusual for him to sound so inconsolable. I went in and found him kneeling in his cot covered in, and surrounded by, vomit (tmi - apologies). He'd clearly thrown-up in his sleep and woken up in it as it was everywhere - in his hair, in his ears and eyes, on his sleeping bag and sleepsuit, the cot bumper and obviously all over the sheet.
All of a sudden I felt this wash of panic and in a very 'ER' kind of way I yelled to Husb, 'gonna need some help in here!'.
Thankfully, within an hour of waking, Boychild was sleeping peacefully once more after being stripped, bathed, redressed, read-to and, most importantly, cuddled quite a lot. In fact, we found that he had left a teddy or two behind in our bed and, between you and me, I quite enjoyed snuggling up to them.
Whilst I really could have done without being on red alert for a whole hour less than 3 hours after falling asleep, it was all over fairly quickly and I was asleep not long after my little man. But this morning it got me thinking. The only reason everything went so smoothly and swiftly was because the load was shared between two people. I stripped Boychild whilst Hubby ran the bath and then Hubby bathed him whilst I stripped the bed, cleaned it, remade it and found some clean nightwear. I took the still sobbing munchkin and cuddled him dry as Husb emptied the bath and tidied the bathroom and then I loaded the washing machine and found a clean cuddly toy to take to bed while Husb dressed him. All within about half an hour.
A full recovery seemed to have taken place by now and the previously sobbing child was now playing jumping games on the marital bed and trying to comb my hair (which basically involved bashing me on the head with the comb). So we found some books, tucked him in the middle of us and let him 'read' for ten minutes, then bundled him up and took him back to his own bed and popped him down. Within another few minutes he was snoring and stayed like that til morning.
What if Husb had been out/away on business/a total git who didn't get involved with his own child? Surely this is the kind of situation a single mum has to deal with on a daily basis? Don't misunderstand me, I have had to sort out Boychild alone when he's been ill in the past, but that was in the middle of the day, I was wide awake and we hadn't just moved, so I knew exactly where to find everything really quickly!
Basically what I'm trying to say is 'mucho respect' to all the single mums out there - whatever the reason for your situation, you have a damn hard job and I salute you.
Friday, 19 April 2013
Why is everything so complicated?
My husband laughs at me. A lot. I think it's a safety mechanism to stop him from killing me.
He thinks I could make emptying a paper bag complicated. But I swear, I don't do it deliberately.
I think it's my years of having to investigate every eventuality of every situation with my job. I have had to put myself in the mindset of a half-witted bloke (sorry for the sweeping generalisation) who has had his hand held by his agent, manager, studio manager, mummy, wifey (delete as applicable) every day and has done for the last 14 years. So now, I can't just accept that the shopping is being delivered/the windows will be cleaned/the wardrobes will be assembled etc. I have to build in a contingency plan for all these situations. But the thing is, I am seldom proved wrong. Since we moved house, I cannot believe how complicated everything has to be. Believe me when I say, I WANT SIMPLE!!! I don't want to have to fight, negotiate or build in a back-up plan every time. Tell me this isn't normal, tell me I've just been unlucky... please!?
1) Cooker was delivered - they couldn't install it due to there being no 'legal' power point in the vicinity. The previous owners had installed their cooker illegally. Great. So we had to get in a 'man that can' to install a legal plug socket.
2) We had the burglar alarm company round when we took over the contract from the previous owners. Great. All simple surely. Nope. The bloke who set it for us, included our bedroom sensor (ie: upstairs) in the same group as the whole of the downstairs so now we can't set it when we go to bed as we set the bloody alarm off when we walk into the bedroom. We have to get them to come back and fix it. Fabulous.
3) The dishwasher was delivered yesterday. Firstly, the pipe isn't long enough to plumb in - again because of the previous owners and their ridiculous kitchen planning. Secondly, the door on the dishwasher is on wonky and so doesn't close properly without you jiggling it about. Cue phone call asking for them to pick it up and deliver a new one. It only took 3 attempts at which button to press on the automated service and 15 minutes on hold. Lovely.
4) Back to the dishwasher. Apparently we had to go back to the shop to choose another dishwasher as the one we picked doesn't lend itself well to having an extension pipe fitted to it. So we did. Only it was out of stock. Brilliant. Today I got a text message saying it was in stock now and they would deliver between 7am and 8pm on Wednesday. Erm, I think not. Some of us have to work you know. I change it to Saturday but am still astounded that they can only offer a 13 hour time slot. Beginning to wonder if I even want a dishwasher now.....
He thinks I could make emptying a paper bag complicated. But I swear, I don't do it deliberately.
I think it's my years of having to investigate every eventuality of every situation with my job. I have had to put myself in the mindset of a half-witted bloke (sorry for the sweeping generalisation) who has had his hand held by his agent, manager, studio manager, mummy, wifey (delete as applicable) every day and has done for the last 14 years. So now, I can't just accept that the shopping is being delivered/the windows will be cleaned/the wardrobes will be assembled etc. I have to build in a contingency plan for all these situations. But the thing is, I am seldom proved wrong. Since we moved house, I cannot believe how complicated everything has to be. Believe me when I say, I WANT SIMPLE!!! I don't want to have to fight, negotiate or build in a back-up plan every time. Tell me this isn't normal, tell me I've just been unlucky... please!?
1) Cooker was delivered - they couldn't install it due to there being no 'legal' power point in the vicinity. The previous owners had installed their cooker illegally. Great. So we had to get in a 'man that can' to install a legal plug socket.
2) We had the burglar alarm company round when we took over the contract from the previous owners. Great. All simple surely. Nope. The bloke who set it for us, included our bedroom sensor (ie: upstairs) in the same group as the whole of the downstairs so now we can't set it when we go to bed as we set the bloody alarm off when we walk into the bedroom. We have to get them to come back and fix it. Fabulous.
3) The dishwasher was delivered yesterday. Firstly, the pipe isn't long enough to plumb in - again because of the previous owners and their ridiculous kitchen planning. Secondly, the door on the dishwasher is on wonky and so doesn't close properly without you jiggling it about. Cue phone call asking for them to pick it up and deliver a new one. It only took 3 attempts at which button to press on the automated service and 15 minutes on hold. Lovely.
4) Back to the dishwasher. Apparently we had to go back to the shop to choose another dishwasher as the one we picked doesn't lend itself well to having an extension pipe fitted to it. So we did. Only it was out of stock. Brilliant. Today I got a text message saying it was in stock now and they would deliver between 7am and 8pm on Wednesday. Erm, I think not. Some of us have to work you know. I change it to Saturday but am still astounded that they can only offer a 13 hour time slot. Beginning to wonder if I even want a dishwasher now.....
Wednesday, 20 March 2013
It's only taken 19 months but we have finally left our lovely little (cramped) flat and moved into our new house. I'm still at that stage when i get excited about walking up the drive ... And the stairs (we have stairs!) ... And into the garden.
What i'm not so thrilled about is the mess some people leave their homes in, not to mention what they do to them while they live in them. Things i have noticed so far...
1) the tight buggers took every curtain pole with them when they moved . £300k for a house and you don't even get anywhere to hang your feckin' curtains.
2) there are no drawers in the kitchen. Not one. Where does one put the cutlery ? Or all the spare keys to which the locks they fit are a mystery? Surely every home needs a 'man-drawer'?
Actually, I found one drawer ... In the dining room. Bit of a pain to get stuff quickly if you have to go to another room.
3) the cooker was installed illegally....from a health & safety perspective. As they took the cooker with them, we discovered this when ours was delivered and the chaps wouldn't install it as the points were not on the right place. Day 7 of ping meals/soup/takeaway looms.
4) all the radiators are in odd places meaning they don't really do the job they were designed to!
5) why is there a howling wind coming from the understairs cupboard? I have looked in said cupboard and cannot find any holes, gaps or wind machines.
6) why would one design their bathroom with a sink so large is hangs over into the bath?
6a) why would one design their bathroom with a large window next to the shower so that one can wave to bus passengers whilst performing their ablutions? Plus if means you have to wipe away the flood of shower water from the window sill after every use.
7) why are there dimmer switches on every light except the dining room? Perhaps the one room that might benefit from some soft lighting occasionally.
8) the kitchen cupboards are so high up that even when using steps I can barely reach the top shelf. I met the previous owners - they were not that tall.
9) They took the loft hook with them too (you know, that bit of curved metal that you use to pull down the hatch and ladder). Why!??
I'm sure I could thing of other foibles in the place but it will make me sound like a Moaning Myrtle and really I love being in the new house. Now all i need is a reasonable lottery win so that I can 'make it my own'... in the words of Pete Waterman.
What i'm not so thrilled about is the mess some people leave their homes in, not to mention what they do to them while they live in them. Things i have noticed so far...
1) the tight buggers took every curtain pole with them when they moved . £300k for a house and you don't even get anywhere to hang your feckin' curtains.
2) there are no drawers in the kitchen. Not one. Where does one put the cutlery ? Or all the spare keys to which the locks they fit are a mystery? Surely every home needs a 'man-drawer'?
Actually, I found one drawer ... In the dining room. Bit of a pain to get stuff quickly if you have to go to another room.
3) the cooker was installed illegally....from a health & safety perspective. As they took the cooker with them, we discovered this when ours was delivered and the chaps wouldn't install it as the points were not on the right place. Day 7 of ping meals/soup/takeaway looms.
4) all the radiators are in odd places meaning they don't really do the job they were designed to!
5) why is there a howling wind coming from the understairs cupboard? I have looked in said cupboard and cannot find any holes, gaps or wind machines.
6) why would one design their bathroom with a sink so large is hangs over into the bath?
6a) why would one design their bathroom with a large window next to the shower so that one can wave to bus passengers whilst performing their ablutions? Plus if means you have to wipe away the flood of shower water from the window sill after every use.
7) why are there dimmer switches on every light except the dining room? Perhaps the one room that might benefit from some soft lighting occasionally.
8) the kitchen cupboards are so high up that even when using steps I can barely reach the top shelf. I met the previous owners - they were not that tall.
9) They took the loft hook with them too (you know, that bit of curved metal that you use to pull down the hatch and ladder). Why!??
I'm sure I could thing of other foibles in the place but it will make me sound like a Moaning Myrtle and really I love being in the new house. Now all i need is a reasonable lottery win so that I can 'make it my own'... in the words of Pete Waterman.
Monday, 18 February 2013
In at the deep end.
Sitting on the tube en route to the office for the first time since April 2012. I am not as heavy as i was back then nor am i wearing a 'baby on board ' badge but i am possibly more tired and have aged 5 years.
I have been up for almost 3 hours and achieved very little, tho i am dressed and made up and Boychild is tucked away nicely at nursery. He will have a great time I'm sure. I, however , will be on edge all day.
Head is thumping....prob from dehydration. Cried for about 3 hours yesterday and did 'guilt' playing with him for most of the afternoon. This, of course, resulted in me not eating til almost 9 after having to do all my chores after he went to bed rather than me doing them 'with him helping' throughout the day. (Husb was away on business unfortunately but it gave us some quality mummy and sprog time) .
Husb returned not long after 9 last night and insisted on me telling him everything he had missed....poor love is a softer sap than I when it comes to Boychild.
Anyway, so far i have needed assistance in buying my travelcard and a nice man on the South Ken platform asked me if i needed any help and called me 'lovely lady'. I guess my squinty tired eyes and shellshocked face must have made me seem like an out-of-towner rather than than a professional yummy mummy - the look i hoped to achieve when choosing my first day back outfit!
Oh well, there is always tomorrow to try again.
Tuesday, 22 January 2013
Back to work resolutions!
It's time for a change. I'm not saying that I've 'let myself go' since having Boychild but I have relaxed things somewhat. Don't misunderstand me, I will not leave the house without washing my hair and doing my make-up but the wardrobe has slipped somewhat. Therefore I have made a decision that back to work is my 'New Year' and things have got to change.
1) Weight Watchers. Got to be done. Still a good 12lbs heavier than pre-pregnancy and I wasn't exactly svelte before then. At least 24lbs heavier than on my wedding day which was less than 3 years ago. Going to be 40 in 3 months time. I refuse to be this fat and 40!
2) Dress for work. After spending the last year in stretch jeans, comfy shoes and hoodies, I need to smarten up. My job doesn't need suits (positively frowned upon!) but smart jeans, heels, jackets and funky shirts are in order. That and ensuring I am not wearing something sporting baby vomit, baby snot or dried milk.
3) Good underwear . Finally bought some new bras last week. Ones that fit rather than the preggy one-size-bigger efforts I was slobbing about in, but the pants....well, I know comfort has suddenly become more important than style but I'm way too young for granny pants on a daily basis. Once back to work, a lunchtime visit to M&S without a buggy will definitely be a priority.
4) Ditch the maternity nighties. Probably too much information, but considering I slept pretty much naked for years and in the cold I might have found an oversized t-shirt, since Baby Boy was born I have stuck with the shapeless, long maternity nighties. Not sexy. Not attractive. Certainly not conducive with maintaining nocturnal activities with Husb.
5) Listen to some PROPER music. Knowing all the words to the song on 'Baby Jake' is not cool and won't cut it in the office. I cannot wait to have the time to listen to my beloved ipod again. It's been turned on twice since I had Boychild.
1) Weight Watchers. Got to be done. Still a good 12lbs heavier than pre-pregnancy and I wasn't exactly svelte before then. At least 24lbs heavier than on my wedding day which was less than 3 years ago. Going to be 40 in 3 months time. I refuse to be this fat and 40!
2) Dress for work. After spending the last year in stretch jeans, comfy shoes and hoodies, I need to smarten up. My job doesn't need suits (positively frowned upon!) but smart jeans, heels, jackets and funky shirts are in order. That and ensuring I am not wearing something sporting baby vomit, baby snot or dried milk.
3) Good underwear . Finally bought some new bras last week. Ones that fit rather than the preggy one-size-bigger efforts I was slobbing about in, but the pants....well, I know comfort has suddenly become more important than style but I'm way too young for granny pants on a daily basis. Once back to work, a lunchtime visit to M&S without a buggy will definitely be a priority.
4) Ditch the maternity nighties. Probably too much information, but considering I slept pretty much naked for years and in the cold I might have found an oversized t-shirt, since Baby Boy was born I have stuck with the shapeless, long maternity nighties. Not sexy. Not attractive. Certainly not conducive with maintaining nocturnal activities with Husb.
5) Listen to some PROPER music. Knowing all the words to the song on 'Baby Jake' is not cool and won't cut it in the office. I cannot wait to have the time to listen to my beloved ipod again. It's been turned on twice since I had Boychild.
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